And it's hard to understand unless you're in it. It's more than love, it's more important than love. If you take him out it's like cutting his face out of all the pictures, there's a big hole and it's ugly. The house and the children and so much more of what you do is built around him and your life, too, your history. And then the next morning you wake up and the kitchen smells like coffee and the children have their hair all brushed and the birds are eating out of the feeder and you look at your husband and he's not the person you used to think he was but he's your life. And some nights you say to yourself, it's not enough, I won't put up with another minute. But time goes by and you've slept together a thousand nights and smelled like spit-up when babies are sick and seen your body droop and get soft. You say to yourself when you're young, oh, I wouldn't tolerate this or that or the other thing, you say love is the most important thing in the world and there's only one kind of love and it makes you feel different than you feel the rest of the time, like you're all lit up. “You make concessions when you're married a long time that you don't believe you'll ever make when you're beginning.
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